Social Self-Reintegration


Social Self-Reintegration – An Introvert’s Struggle

I enjoy being alone. I use my alone time to focus and get to know myself better. Being alone is an Introvert’s dream relationship. What’s the downside of being alone? It becomes too isolated, both physically and emotionally. It seems that too much of a good thing isn’t truly a good thing. Oh well. It’s time to reintroduce myself socially. I call this social self-reintegration.

Social self-reintegration can be a painful process, especially after eliminating your circle of negative energies. Who wants to reemerge themselves with the company of negative Nellys and naysayers? I know it’s a fantasy to rid my life of everything negative. Without resistance there will be the absence of strength. Fortunately, I have built enough emotional and psychological strength to know when to walk away from negative behaviors without feeling guilty.

Life has taught me the importance of accepting my strengths and limitations. My dominant weakness is I can become very comfortable with self-isolation. My dominant strength is I have learned to listen to my intuition and immediately shutdown negative conversations and behaviors. I acknowledge my power to walk away from people whose negative behaviors can have a major impact on my emotional and physical well-being.

Social self-reintegration is like learning to swim again, but in an ocean. It’s scary. It’s daunting. It’s mind-altering fantastic!

I remember my 2017 trip to the Cayman Islands and swimming in the gorgeous, blue ocean. Initially, I had a panic attack and returned to shore. I calmed myself and reassured myself I could do it. I returned to the fantastic ocean and felt liberated. I allowed myself to be free of paralyzing fear and live in the moment. What a rush!

All I have to do is not allow myself to get lost in the social media madness and only participate in those arenas that benefit me.

A Very Sensitive Empathic Introvert


Sometimes I feel like I’m judge by those close to me as well as those who do not know much about me. Why? Well, it’s because I’m a very sensitive Empathic Introvert. If you aren’t sure what an Empath is I’ll try my best to explain.

An Empath is someone who absorbs other peoples’ energies whether those energies are positive or negative. When we absorb positive energies, we are lively, energetic, and outgoing. However, at some point, we become drained and need to recuperate. When we absorb a person’s negative energies, we are immediately drained and may appear either moody or ill. Most often, we experience headaches or body aches. When we are overcome by negative energies, we seek out the nearest exit, and disappear without notice.

As a child, several family members labeled me as moody or stuck up. This hurt me to the core. I wanted to be more involved, but the negative energies that surrounded me became overwhelming and I would disappear for hours to be alone with my books. Once I was rejuvenated, I would return to my family’s life. As a child, there were too many places you could go without supervision. However, I found solace in the public libraries, park benches, and the woods. Being in nature was the quickest way for me to regain my good energies.

I prefer small groups, no more than 5-10 people. I shy away from large groups, which is why I haven’t attended a music concert since 1992. Surprisingly, I enjoy public speaking, but you rarely find me hanging around soon after. For some, this may sound far-fetched. Some may align my behaviors with moodiness or anti-social behaviors. I no longer concern myself with what others think of me. I know who I am. I know what my body, mind, and spirit need in order to thrive.

I have a few close family and friends with whom I socialize, who aren’t in need of my presence 24/7. We communicate in various ways just to ensure all is good with our worlds. They aren’t aware of my overly sensitive, empathic spirit. They just understand me without questions.

I must confess that I often force myself to be social and reach out to let people know I love and care about them. When I say, ‘force’, I’m not talking about ‘fake’. I’m talking about making my empathic spirit vulnerable.

So, for those who assumed me to be standoffish and moody, I’m not. I’m a very sensitive, empathic Introvert. Like a rechargeable battery, I’m a rechargeable spirit. Give me a few hours alone, and I’ll be ready for the next exciting adventure.

Those of you who are Empaths understand my confession. Those who are not, you now have a glimpse of who I am. If you don’t understand a person, I highly recommend you ask. Empaths don’t mind providing clarification of their behaviors.

Answering Life’s Most Important Question: Who Am I?


The two most important days of your life are the day you were born and the day you find out why. ~ Mark Twain

Who Am I?

I awoke this morning with a smile in my heart. I completed my first day of Oprah & Deepak 21-Day Meditation Experience™. The theme was Who Am I? I have never asked myself this profound question. Why? Well, because I have been so busy being busy that I haven’t given a thought about who I am.

I do know several obvious things about myself. I’m a daughter, granddaughter, sister, niece, aunt, grandmother, and friend. I’m a published author, artist, educator, and documentary enthusiast. My favorite color is mauve rose. My favorite drink is water. I’m a country girl who was raised in the city. Although I identify as part of these life situations, these do not answer the profound questions, “Who Am I?”

After meditating, I said my prayers giving thanks for just being. However, the questions, “Who Am I?” still gnawed at my soul. For me to answer this question is to step back and review what I am not.

I am NOT the scared and tortured nine-year-old living in the home of a pedophile.

I am NOT the battered young mother of three living in the home of a sadistic abuser.

I am NOT the disillusioned Navy sailor living in fear of another physical attack and rape.

I am NOT the angry Black woman raging against institutionalized racism within academia.

I am NOT the lost woman searching for love from all the wrong men.

So, who am I?

I am the woman who is accountable for her life.

I am the woman who is responsible for her self-awareness.

I am the woman who is self-motivated.

I am the woman who is self-empowered.

I am the woman who is responsible for loving herself first so that I can love others.

Most important, I am ME. I cannot be duplicated. I am love and am lovable by those who truly are self-aware.

So, today, I was asked one of the most profound questions, which cannot be answered in this brief commentary. It can only be answered by each of my actions second-by-second. Therefore, I will continually work on pursuing the truth to the question, “Who Am I?”

Become a Princess Launch Party a Huge Success!


Princess Onxy™ Become a Princess Launch Party a Huge Success!
Saturday, June 24, 2017
Techny, Illinois

To launch the Princess Onyx™ Become a Princess Party brand, Author Clarissa Burton’s launch party was a huge success. The private party was held in Raytown, Missouri at a gorgeous, private residence for ten princesses and their parents or guardians. The theme was the celebration of girls of all skins tones. The décor was pastel pink, yellow, lavender, and fuchsia. Each princess was given a tiara, wand, and bracelet. Continue reading

Obsolescence Isn’t a Good Career Option


Upgrading your job skills is critical because your other alternative is obsolescence.

Nearly half of retail workers are at risk of losing their jobs to robots and other automation technology, according to a new report.

Several years ago, I had people argue me down saying I was a conspiracy theorists. Of course, that WASN’T the case. I had seen the ‘signs’ of technology taking over warehousing and some service industry jobs. I provided tangible proof. Yet, I was literally ‘shouted down’ as if I were an idiot. What can the naysayers say now?

If you are not in the technology industry, be aware of the changing employment industry tides. There will always be a place for your talents. It’s just that those places are changing and you MUST adapt. How? By learning how technology will impact your industry. You may need to learn a new skill, which isn’t a bad idea. If not, you will become as obsolete as the last iPhone version. Again, obsolescence isn’t a good career option.

UPDATE!!! It’s has come to past that those protesting for a higher minimum wage got what they wanted. Now, the game-changers are coming to past.